Marge Stenftenagel’s home in Maltersville, Ind. remains decorated with photos of her and her late husband Si. “They’ve been there forever, and that’s my life,” she said. “I’m not going to take anything down.”
A note on Marge’s mirror has reminded her to “Visit Si often” since his death six years ago. Marge talked on the phone with her son Steve "Little Si" Stenftenagel on May 31, 2018. Steve calls her every day to check in.
Marge feels she is still married to Si, and would never imagine taking off her wedding ring. Once, when doing laundry, her hand bumped the rim of the washing machine and the ring’s diamond fell inside. “That was scary,” she said. “It would have killed me… I’d probably cry like I cried when Si died.” Marge worked on her plywood yard art in her home on April 25, 2018.
When Marge visits her late husband, Si, at Fairview Cemetery, she often thinks about what they used to do together. “I tell him he’s in a better place,” she said. Marge said a prayer at Si's grave in Jasper on June 13, 2018.
Keeping up with friends is important to Marge. A year ago, she began having near-weekly dinners with Janie Gogel of Jasper, also a widow, as she did at Ohana Hawaiian Bar and Grill in Jasper on June 23, 2018. Janie and Marge both grew up on farms in Ferdinand, and enjoy reminiscing about their upbringings.
“If you look halfway decent, you feel halfway decent,” said Marge. Doing her hair and makeup is an important routine for her confidence. Marge had her hair done by Amy Goebel of Jasper at Jagged Edge Hair Studio in Jasper before her Holy Family Catholic Church photo on June 21, 2018.
While Marge is still active in the community, she loves to sit by the pond, where she and Si spent the most time together. She now spends time there with her new companions: goldfish, cat and dog, as she did on June 21, 2018.